Find your position
Four dials, moving independently. There is no right setting — set each one and your position falls out of the combination.
How the four axes work
Most relationship language hands you a single switch: monogamous, or not. Everything else has to be squeezed through it, which is why so many honest arrangements end up sounding like exceptions.
Think of an equaliser instead. Four sliders, each moving on its own. Your combination is not a label you were assigned — it is a position you can read, explain and revise.
Set your dials below and this fills in.
Sexual Exclusivity
Who you are physically intimate with — and how many people that can include. This dial says nothing about how serious you are; seriousness lives on Structure and Intent.
Romantic Exclusivity
How many romantic loves your heart holds at a time. Independent of the physical dial — plenty of people are open in one and singular in the other.
Partnership Structure
The architecture around the feeling — whether the basic unit is a pair, a web, or you.
Intent
The only dial that is explicitly about this moment. It is expected to move, and moving it is not a failure of the other three.
Set all four dials to see your combination — or take the full quiz and have it worked out for you.